Be Assertive!

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“It is a mistake to look at someone who is self assertive and say, “It’s easy for her, she has good self-esteem.” One of the ways you build self-esteem is by being self-assertive when it is not easy to do so. There are always times when self-assertiveness requires courage, no matter how high your self-esteem.”

Nathaniel Branden

From http://www.outstand.org

“Those of us who grew up in dysfunctional families may have never learned to communicate effectively in relationships. We may be passive and not advocate for ourselves, aggressive and attempt to run roughshod over others, or passive-aggressive and smile while sabotaging others behind their backs. No wonder we have so many problematic relationships and feel so isolated! In order to build healthy relationships, we must learn to be assertive – that is, to be clear, direct, and respectful in how we communicate.

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Do you RESPECT YOURSELF?

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“Do you respect yourself?!” exclaimed Victoria while pulling me away from the living room where we were celebrating my 17th birthday.

It was a very quiet party. Only my 3 closest University friends have been invited and Anton. I did not want him to be there, but I had no choice. I did not want to have him in my life at all. I could not even comprehend how he actually got in there.

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I knew Anton for only a few weeks, but in those few weeks all my life went upside down.

He seemed to be always around, monitoring every step I made or every breath I took. If he was not physically around, then there were phone calls. Hundreds and hundreds of phone calls each day. I was scared to answer the phone and even more scared not to answer it, as then he would…

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I have been really unproductive for the past few days, I see this bouts of laziness or is it something else? Coming in much shorter intervals. Feeling stuck in what works and seeing how beyond my reach my real ambition is….worse it seems to happen across multiple areas I feel so “passionless” well mostly. I don’t know if to hit the reset button, goosh sometimes I envy people with so much focus and drive even if its towards the wrong things at least they are passionate enough to pursue something…… I get this subconscious feeling that the window to act is closing fast. Praying i find my place of purpose. Asherrj praying u discover your strength soon.

Kalthoum

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To true freedom

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excerpt from ‘Barefoot in Baghdad’ by Manal M. Omar

Baghdad

She was hiding. Then again, everyone seemed to be hiding. It was October 2003, eight months into the disastrous U.S.-led invasion of Iraq. But she was practically a child. And her enemy proved to be more insidious – and heartbreaking – than the ones we read about and saw on television. Getting to her was my first hurdle…

Once inside the police building, an Iraqi police officer and a U.S. Military Policeman practically tackled me in an effort to argue their case…. Both men were right. She would be killed if she were released. But the police had no authority, under Iraqi law, to hold her…

Luckily for me, I didn’t have to make any decision. I wasn’t there to judge or referee. My sole purpose was to ensure that the girl was safe, clothed, fed, and healthy.

“I’m only here…

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I had vowed to selfishness after three long years in a draining relationship and a “nail in the coffin” fling. I just shutdown.

I started making lots and lots of friends, going to birthday parties and sometimes hang out by the lake with friends. It felt so good to be me, I even tried a bottle of Heineken lol:alcohol isn’t my thing but at 25 years old it was one of the silly things on my todo list.

I have so learned that you have to be well-defined before going into any partnership. In life we crave companionship, intimacy, love…….but it would be an injustice if you get all these thing without ever finding yourself. A greater injustice is losing “you” in the process of finding these things, because at the end of the day all you’ll be left with is you.